I realized today that I have not posted recently, and that I had a lot on my mind. So here goes the first blog post of the 2009/2010 school year.
I currently live in a duplex with 7 other people. The reasons for this are still unclear to me, but I got in on it, the price was right, and I was ok with the people living there. Turns out, I now live in a “Community”, which I usually interpret to mean the Cherry Hill district that I live in, which incorporates several city blocks. However, the people I live with tend to like the idea of our house being a more exclusive community. Anyhow, I tend to keep to myself, not really interfere, and generally not be a pain in the ass, but also not be too heavily involved, mainly because work is busy, and my activities in the greater community, and with older friends tend to be very important to me. On Sunday, I attended a play with a friend in downtown Grand Rapids. The play was “Performance Art in Front of an Audience Ought to be Entertaining”, and was a work of experimental theater that took place in someone’s flat. I will discuss it more once I get the “Performance Reviews” section of my blog up and running. Anyhow, I had dinner with my friend, which he made, and then we went to the performance, and we stayed for the champagne reception after the performance to discuss the performance with the actors and directors. The entire process took about 5 hours. During that time, I was called by housemates several times informing me that I was missing the community dinner (later discovered to be crappy), and an important meeting (that ended up not taking place). Well and good, except that I had informed everyone what was going on, and no one expressed issues with it before I actually didn’t show up. Which leads to my primary gripe: No one tells me anything.
I figure community living is good. Living with people is a great thing to do. The problems come when people dont bother to actually respect all members of the community equally, and bother to tell them things. I feel like if you have a problem with what I am going to do, and I inform you about it, then let me fucking know. Otherwise, don’t bitch about it. Also, let me know if I am expected to do something, and also expect that I am probably going to be rather unhappy if I had no input on what I am expected to do. Its great if you expect me to clean the kitchen, not so great when you also expect that I clean up your shit in the process. And if you have a problem with my shit somewhere, then tell me about it. I don’t always remember if I left my laundry in the basement, and if its there, let me know so I can do something about it. I feel like my current situation is always me playing catchup to things that I was “informed” of, usually at a meeting or gathering I was not at. I sincerely apologize that working productions in a theater means that I stay at work until midnight and then just want to sleep when I get home, and I also am sorry that I stop by the bar with people I work with on the way home. Its a theater thing, and if you don’t understand it, Im sorry. Its just what we tend to do. And if you really want something done, email me, or at least post a note on my door or something. Don’t just get angry when something does not get done. Im a human too, you know. We all fuck up a lot.
Am I wrong for thinking that I ought to be filled in on major decisions, and maybe have a bit of input? I was under the impression that as someone living in a house, paying my share of the rent and utilities, then I probably ought to get a say in issues I feel are relevant to me. I don’t want final say, I just want to be able to be heard, and have people respect what I think. If I think your drinking too much, maybe think about how much you drink. If I really feel that I ought not be responsible for your dishes, maybe at least consider that, instead of instantly rebuffing with “Well, its a community, you need to sacrifice”. What are you sacrificing? Are you really trying to help out others, or are you just trying to get shit done for you? I cant know that, thats your issue. And I am really, really sorry, if you get pissed because I am not home at the time and have yet to clean my plate from breakfast off, and then decide to clean it for me. It was nice of you, but I don’t feel like I owe you something because you did that. I would much prefer that you listen next time I say something at a meeting, then all my dishes being done for me. Thats basically it. Treat me like you want to be treated, have some respect for my ideas if you want me to respect yours, and in general try not to be a dick about everything. End Rant.
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